In your opinion, is money important in relationships? Consider the "transactional" element observed in the relationships between the couples. Do you think there is an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities?
In my opinion, I think that money is important in a relationship, however valuing money over other qualities? This is just wrong. If one loves another for his/her money, the relationship will be one-sided and this will probably end up with a divorce.
In today's society, the quality of life is rapidly increasing, resulting in the increase in cost of life. So, money is important as it is very realistic. A marriage with a rich man/woman would give you a relaxing and luxurious life, in return the other half can give him/her caring and love. Moreover, a family that faced income problem will have difficulties and would argue over money. This would not create a good relationship. Thus money can be a factor in relationship.
However, if valuing the money over the qualities of a person, this would lead to a bad relationship. True love is when you love a person for his qualities and not his background. We can see that in Singapore, more and more people are valuing money more than his/her partner's qualities. This is due to the increasing in cost of living and people are being more realistic. But a relationship like this, would probably end up in a divorce and this is also shown statistically in Singapore.
In conclusion, money can be a factor in a relationship, but cannot be over weighted for one's qualities.
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ReplyDeleteI am Colin and i disagree with what you said. Are you sure love is all about qualities? As in i mean liking someone for his qualities is also quite realistic to me. It is like you like someone and wants to marry him because of him being smart (qualities). I can like this to him thus being able to earn more and feed me well. Also, i disagree with you that if valuing money over qualities, it would thus lead to a bad relationship. From what i know, i know of couples who married just for the sake of business etc. such as the ancient Kings of China who married off their daughter to other countries to build relationship but i don't see divorce between them. What does this mean?
I am Leon Ng from 2O220. Colin, bu yao na me siong haur :P anyway, i think wei lim committed some mistakes in his expression hence you misunderstood his intention. I think that when he says qualities, he means that the traits one possesses. Quality does not solely mean good or bad, rather it refers to personalities and the personal traits of a person. I do agree with Wei Lim's Point of view that qualities are more important than money. When we fall in love for a person, we should fall for them for their qualities, and not their wealth. In fact, love is something that comes naturally, and it is so intriguing that one does not need a reason to explain the special feeling one has for the other. The increase in the number divorces does not signify that people are valuing money above others, divorce normally symbolizes unhappy couples which leads to unhealthy and bitter relationship, hence divorce has to be carried out to prevent the deterioration of the situation. However, Wei Lim did make a valid point that money is not as important as one's qualities.
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